"'We have done a lot of reading on your website and feel comfortable scheduling an appointment...' That's our typical client....Prepared, researched and ready."
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Forty years of research studying real marriages teaches that marriages die by 'fire' or 'ice'. 'Fiery' marriages divorce early. 'Icy' ones live longer without passion, or excitement.
Research has demonstrated that a science approach in Couples Therapy is 817-718-7320 effective in helping relationships. These retreats equal almost 6 months of conventional therapy. Begin with a weekend. Follow up online or continue with your local therapist. We provide the "jump start" you need for focused, effective work. Ways to meet? You come to us. We meet online. Or we even come to you with our team of "Fly Me" therapists.
Were you a "marriage counseling drop-out?" You aren't alone. While 80% of practicing therapists claim to do couples therapy, few have adequate training in this tricky modality. Were you squeezed into a 45-60 minute "individual block?" That's too short a time to be effective. It's a waste of your time and money. Couples end up blaming their relationship and not the therapist! Find someone highly qualified.
You can do it better. Together.
Remarkably, yes, it can. It provides a foundation for real ongoing change. Bring us your most distressing problems. Happier couples attend, too, for a tune up. You'll learn how to change around marital unhappiness to team collaboration. "Hopeless" to "Hopeful." All in a single science-based weekend.
Some therapist practices are groups of people who share an office and admin. We're different. We're a clinical team, hand-picked by Dr. K from across the globe. She's combed 1000's of resumes to find them. Our therapists need the right skill-set in the Gottman Method or Emotionally Focused Therapy, a collaborative spirit, and a passion to grow the field of couples therapy. Stretching over 19 time zones and collectively speaking 9 languages and 558 years of being clinicans, we grow our skills together.
Are you a therapist who is passionate about helping intimate relationships? Contact us.
"[Couples Therapy Inc.] is serious business - no margaritas, group sessions or yoga classes... a science-based intensive one-on-one retreat addressing your relationship issues head on with a skilled doctoral or masters-level couples therapist."
We make healing your heart convenient.
Your marital happiness depends upon choosing the best couples therapy available. But convenience is also important. Weekly sessions aren't in-depth enough for many couples. Intensive, science-based help combines six months of therapy in less than 3 days. And at 70-90% scientifically proven effective, it's perfect for busy couples.
Our couples therapy work is not suitable for every couple, however. Can we help you? Give us a call to find out. And read more about our team's remarkable set of credentials and achievements, and our award-winning 281-436-1027. Listen to what our clients have to say about our science-based work helping couples in an intensive format. Or simply call us and say: "Tell me more." Our Intake Coordinator Daniel is standing by. Arrange a consult.
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We know that looking for a relationship counselor can feel like a huge task. If you're feeling overwhelmed about ever being able to get closer, we can help. Our marriage and family therapists, psychologists, social workers and other mental health professionals have invested long-term in your wellbeing by being some of the most highly skilled couples therapy professionals available today.
Recognize that couples counseling is an evolving field, but we've come a lot farther in helping couples than popular media likes to portray.
Take a look at this clip of the therapy scene in the movie Couples Retreat between Ronnie and David:
It's funny to a couples therapist, and hysterical to the general public because we recognize the truth in the depiction. Horrifically, however, most viewers actually believe that some slightly less dramatic version of this scene constitutes actual "couples therapy."
View the clip and then let's walk you through it:
The therapist opens up the session by asking a general question: "So how was your night?" ignoring the obvious tension in the room. Ronnie, the wife, then goes into a 20-second "polite assault" on her husband. She's contemptuously talking about her husband being in "a very traumatic shark situation..." (To which her husband responds: "Here we go...")
She only indirectly talks about her disappointment in not having the romantic evening she was hoping for. She then falls back into contempt: "but somehow this crazy, traumatic shark experience was enough to make him neglect his wife."
Instead of stopping this display of contempt, John Michael Higgins, who plays Therapist #1, surprises the audience by saying:
Therapist #1: "Ronnie, nice to meet you!"
...with obvious admiration for her candor.
She looks surprised. She knew she was being snarky but the therapist welcomed it!
And as if to add insult to injury, he turns to David and asks: "How did that make you feel?"
Contempt? How did contempt make him feel? How does he think contempt makes David feel?
Like it makes EVERYONE feel.
Just look at the look on his face. He's not even expecting the therapist to come to his defense, and in that, his expectations are spot on.
In a movie comedy, we laugh along, because we recognize ourselves in the scene. But in REAL LIVE SKILLED couples therapy, we stop the action when a spouse starts talking with contempt.
In this case, Ronnie's profoundly disappointed. She was at looking forward to a romantic evening. Those hopes got dashed, but she had a role in that. She's hurt, angry, and neglected. But how she tells David matters. She can't do it in a way that leaves HIM feeling attacked and horrible.
David's response was to justify his experience. (He was the butt of his friends' jokes the night before because of his terrified reaction to the crazy "challenge" they were all put through that day...throwing fish food into (harmless) shark-infested waters...
He said, defensively:
David: "I know my truth."
Why did he say that?
Because his sanity was questioned by both his wife, his friends AND NOW the therapist!
Later, (in 1:52 of the clip) we see a fight between Joey and Lucy. We assume its about sex and intimacy because they both act so sexually wanton toward other people in the movie. Lucy got pregnant with Joey's baby in high school which resulted in their getting married. Now neither feels desired by the other:
Joey: "So now it's my fault that you don't feel satisfied."
Lucy: "Everything is MY fault? Is that what you're saying?
Joey: "I'm not saying that..."
Lucy: "You don't look at me. You don't EVER ask me how I am..."
Joey: "...You haven't looked at me in 10 years..."
Lucy: (defensively) "...I'm crazy and everything is my fault and my family is awful (Joey nodes in agreement...) and nothing (waving her hands) at all is your fault...'cause you rock, Joey..."
Joey now is hostile and escalated. He implicitly threatens violence.
Joey: "If a guy talked to me like that, I'd punch him in the face..."
Lucy: "Ohhhh...(chopping the pillow with her hand) You're such an a**hole!!!!"
Joey: "You're an a**hole!!!!
And we see a shot of the therapist looking puzzled with her head cocked to the side. She looks slightly bemused as she writes a note down in her pad.
Again, if you believe this is what a couples retreat really looks like, no wonder we'd all want to stay away. Luckily, it's not.
In our blog, we spend a great deal of time talking about how necessary fights are between most couples, and how you can learn to improve a fight like this.
This is REAL couples therapy, with over 40 years of research, studying real couples in actual fights. Research measuring couples' bodily reactions as they fight. Following couples over time and noticing how communication patterns either enhance or destroy their intimacy.
Then using this research to teaching you how to stay calm during upsetting conversations, and how to talk in your own marriage so your partner will listen.
Read more: A Fight About Nothing